Toby Larkman: Work should be where you can be yourself

‘Hiding an important part of yourself is exhausting’

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To mark Pride Month, Toby Larkman shares his experience as a gay man in financial services…

"How's your wife?" It's a perfectly normal question. Except sometimes the answer isn't what people expect. Thirteen years ago, someone I'd worked with for almost a decade asked me exactly that.   I didn't have a wife; I did have a male partner of many years though.  We laughed about it, but the conversation stayed with me. It made me realise that, almost unconsciously, I'd spent most of my career to that point keeping my private life separate from work. I trained as an accountant and spent twelve years in consultancy before joining the platform industry in 2017. As a consultant ...

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